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Debilitating money personality 5: The Innocent

admin — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 17:12:27 +0000

Some adult Innocents may have lived very sheltered lives, delaying their disillusionment. But the majority prefer to maintain the illusion of a protected world, in which they don’t have to make an effort to financially educate themselves and where they simply outsource most financial decisions to either a spouse or a team of professionals.

Debilitating money personality 4: The Outsider

admin — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 11:42:22 +0000

Always on the fringes, operating outside the ruling capitalist system, stands the Outsider. The Outsider has a negative perception of the type of work and working conditions that society rewards and therefore wants no part of it. At the extreme, she doesn’t really care whether anyone appreciates her talents and will reward them, because it’s her life and she spends every day as she pleases. No wonder money is not exactly flying into the Outsider’s bank account.

Debilitating money personality 3: The Warrior

admin — Fri, 03 Jul 2009 13:23:53 +0000

While there is a time and a place for fighting your battles, Warrior behaviour becomes debilitating when one start to see every interaction as potentially hostile or as a competition. How could this affect the pocket?

Debilitating money personality 2: The Victim

admin — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 12:35:16 +0000

Because she perceives herself as helpless, the Victim often suffers from financial paralysis. It is as if she just can’t bring herself to take the necessary action. Instead, she waits for good fortune and a Rescuer to improve her financial circumstances.

Debilitating money personality 1: The Rescuer

admin — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 12:48:56 +0000

Being a Rescuer makes it very difficult to build wealth and just enjoy the rewards of hard work and wise investments. Whenever someone who appears worse off than themselves enters their lives, Rescuers feel guilty if they don’t channel time and money towards that person. Rescuers are easily exploitable.

Forget the gifts. Learn a love language.

admin — Fri, 08 May 2009 10:33:52 +0000

Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Birthdays, Christmases, weddings… There seem to be no end to the event calendar and the accompanying anxiety of searching for the perfect gift for the occasion. But are your efforts to express your affection perhaps a waste of time and money?

When money & emotion are good dance partners

admin — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 06:08:45 +0000

If you feel that you haven’t reached the end of your wealth journey yet, how then would that destination feel to you? Is it the feeling of safety when you switch of the lights in your children’s bedroom at night and know that you can provide in all their material needs? Or is it more the excitement of knowing you can catch any plane to a dream destination of your choice at any time, because there is plenty of cash in the bank for luxuries?

More competition, please!

admin — Fri, 21 Nov 2008 06:32:52 +0000

People react differently to competition. Some view business as a zero-sum game, in which it’s best to completely eliminate your opponent and carry away the entire bounty. Some actively seek out competition, narcissistically needing to always win to boost their self-esteem. Others are quite happy to exist without competition, but when

Seeing abundance in any economic climate

admin — Sun, 19 Oct 2008 13:08:17 +0000

Liquidity has become very scarce. As a result, stock markets everywhere are collapsing and a global recession is looming. How do you keep up an abundance mindset while world economies are feeling the pinch?

Why failure may be good for you

admin — Thu, 04 Sep 2008 18:56:08 +0000

Repeated failures and eventual successes are the reasons humankind make any progress at all. Like Tom Watson, the president of IBM observed, ‘If you want to increase your success rate, double your failure rate.’ The more comfortable a society is with failure, the faster is its collective learning.

Just enough desire to warm the heart

admin — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 09:53:35 +0000

'But isn’t not wanting anything one of the symptoms of depression?' Hearing these words of Julie Delpy in Before Sunset I was glad to find an excuse, even though I greatly admire Buddhist philosophy, to never take my orders.

The Buddha was just using common sense when he noted that desire is the root of all unhappiness. One could easily imagine that he was spending a lot of time with either a two-year old or a highly ambitious or obsessive melancholic at that stage. If you do not want anything, you cannot be disappointed or frustrated, and therefore we have a few less tantrums and sulking in the world. Maybe the search for moderation in all things can guide us through the minefield of desire and ambition.

Money: friend or foe?

admin — Wed, 26 Mar 2008 21:30:30 +0000

For the greatest part of my life I heard myself say, ‘I don’t want to be rich; I just want to be happy. Getting rich sounds like too much hard work. And you have to sell your soul. Most rich people are arseholes, anyway’. So, what happened? I ended up at 28 not having any money. I was renting a bachelor’s with just a futon and a fridge to my name. One night, listening to the soothing sounds of quarrelsome neighbours through a paper thin wall, I decided that maybe a little bit of money wasn’t such a bad thing after all.

Rich or successful?

admin — Fri, 01 Feb 2008 10:42:09 +0000

‘She’s hugely successful.’ I wonder why that pronouncement always makes me feel slightly uncomfortable. Especially when the judgement hinges on a flash new convertible or expensive taste in suits. I don’t know. Maybe it’s because I can’t imagine personal success to be something that can be observed with the naked eye. Is real success not that feeling when you realise you are doing/becoming what you believe you were destined to do/be?